Lorraine Merle Blackmur (13 Nov 1946 - 10 Jun 2018)

Funeral Service

Location
Albany CreekMemorial Park Crematorium (Lakeview Chapel) 400 Albany Creek Road Bridgeman Downs 4035
Date
13th Jun 2018
Time
12.30pm
Funeral Director
Academy Funerals

In loving memory of Lorraine Merle Blackmur who sadly passed away on 10th June 2018

BLACKMUR Lorraine Merle


Late of Kippa-Ring and Lower Nudgee. Lorraine passed away at her home surrounded by the love of her family on Sunday 10th June 2018. At the time of her passing Lorraine was just 71 years of age.


Lorraine leaves behind her loving husband and soulmate Lloyd whose life will forever be changed. Lorraine or Mum also leaves behind her much loved children Tracey, Daniel and their partners, Brad and Shelly.


Lorraine or Grandma as she was better known will also be sadly missed by her adoring grandchildren Breana, Eden and Milla who will always remember their Grandma for the loving relationship that can only exist between a grandchild and a grandparent. Nevertheless, each of them will have a constant reminder of her whenever they take a walk along the beach or bake a batch of cupcakes that she loved to teach them how to do.

At this time Lorraine’s family would like to thank the Doctors, Nurses and support staff of the Northlakes Cancer Care Unit, the Stafford Dialysis Unit and Queensland Health Palliative care unit and for the love and care that they provided that allowed Lorraine to pass away in her home with her family around her.


Lorraine’s family and friends are respectfully invited to attend a celebration of life service that will be held for Lorraine in the “Lakeview Chapel” Albany Creek Memorial Park Crematorium, 400 Albany Creek Road Bridgeman Downs on Wednesday 12th June 2018.

The service will commence at 12:30 Pm

Shelly Blackmur wrote

We're almost finished our school year and i'm so sad you aren't seeing our gorgeous girls grow. Miss you so much but I know you're always watching us and watching out for us and that helps a little. xx

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I'd like to think we sent you on your last journey in style Ma. I've no doubt you're probably thinking it was all a bit too much......I thought it wasn't enough. I thought we shouldn't have to be doing it at all. Love you more than life.

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Percival - to carry you on your final journey. He's held together with a lot of love and quite a few tears.

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Tracey Blackmur wrote

I wish you were here for your birthday hug. I wish you were still here period.
The hurt never stops. The why is never answered.
Sometimes the strength you taught me runs out and there's not enough left in the tank.
I miss you so much.

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Tracey Blackmur wrote

I don't want you to go out in a paper bag. It doesn't feel right. I get it, we can't stand on the rocks at Kings Beach and pour your ashes straight out. The on shore breeze is going to send you back in our faces. When I say "you", I know it's not really you, but it's the last physical part of you that we have.
Far out Ma, why do you have to be gone? I hate that this is how I "talk" to you now.
I've spent the better part of this week trying to construct a paper Pelican to send you off in. I just can't put you in a paper bag and throw your ashes. It just doesn't feel right.
I'm about half way there, building your Pelican. He's hard work, but you're worth it. There's plenty of heart gone into him and tonight there's been plenty of tears too.
I can almost hear you telling me not to be so ridiculous, what difference does it make......it makes a difference to me Ma and in the end you'd be ok with that. So long as the rest of the team is ok with it and I'm sure they will be.
I'll put a photo of him here when he's done.
Love you Ma

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Tracey Blackmur wrote

How can you be gone......? I still can't get my brain around it. I still can't accept it. I will never be alright with it.
There's not enough art, craft, gardening, coffee, drinks with friends,hugs or best wishes from others to fill the hole.
It's never going to feel right, it's never going to feel fair. I hope one day it might not feel like I've stopped breathing, like I've stopped feeling, like my heart is so broken that it can't ever heal.

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Tracey Blackmur wrote

It's often said that it's the "firsts" that hurt. I can believe that. It's the first birthday I've done without you. I'm pretty sure that it's not just going to be the "firsts' that hurt.....all of them are going to. My b'day, Dan's b'day, your wedding anniversary, Xmas, Dad's b'day, Mother's Day. Where does it end?
There is never an end. Every day hurts without you.
For a long time this morning I couldn't get it together. I felt sick, I couldn't function. I kept walking around in circles. I kept coming back to your photo on the table and talking to you, but all I wanted was my birthday cuddle from you. The realisation that I was never getting a cuddle from you again took my breath away. I had to sit down and try not to be sick.
Then I felt you in the back of my mind. Get it together Tracey. It's your birthday, you're not supposed to be sad. You've got people around you that love you. You've got people around that care.
What's life without those people! It bleak and it's sad.......you've got those people that care, so snap out of it! Embrace it!
Love you Mum

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Tracey Blackmur wrote

2 months Ma.....it feels like an age ago, then it feels like yesterday. I'm never quite sure how it feels to be honest.
My brain still can't reconcile that you are gone. I keep expecting to see you again and yet some days I can't breathe because I know I never will.
Ripped off is how I feel most days. Then I reflect and remind myself that I am lucky to have had you at all. I miss you so much......

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Here's your mate Monkey. Still won't sit on anyone's lap but yours.

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Tracey Blackmur wrote

Miss you every day Ma. It hurts so much when I want to pick up the phone and talk to you but you're not there to answer. I miss your dry humour. I miss your no nonsense responses. I miss everything.....especially your hugs.

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28th Feb 2009. Sporting a Lorraine original on my Wedding Day.

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Tracey Blackmur wrote

I haven't cried properly since your funeral Mum. Why that is, I do not know, nor understand. Maybe it's because I still can't quite believe that you are gone. Maybe it's because I still feel your presence. I spent most of today in the garden, pulling out weeds, planting some cuttings and making a couple of my gardens look a little nicer. Doing stuff that I know you loved doing and taught me to love. Maybe not the weeding so much :-) but I guess I like the satisfaction of standing back and admiring the small achievement of a tidy garden and knowing that you would like that too.
I did have a bit of a moment and a whimper, with a few stray tears rolling down my face just now because I washed a new pair of PJ's that Shari bought me.....much to BJ's disgust (he just can't understand how awesome it is hanging out in your PJ's). I just know that they are going to be too long for me and I don't have my Mum here to take up the hem. It's the things like this that are going to hit me in the gut and make me cry when I realise I can't just drop them in to you to fix for me. I know I can do it myself, because you taught me to, but it's just not the same is it.
I Love You Mum and I'm going to miss you until the day I die.

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Julianne Gordon Sage wrote

Lorraine, you were a wonderful wife to my brother Lloyd and a beautiful mother to your two children and I could tell how fond you were of your grandchildren. You will be sadly missed.RIP Lorraine

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Shelly Blackmur wrote

Whatever I write will never be enough.
Your very essence is in my family and will continue to be.
You helped me learn and develop into the type of mother that I wanted to be.
Thank you for everything you have done for our family. We’ve had so many fun times and I’ll make sure we do again. One of my fondest memories is of you insisting that sneaky afternoon wines were almost mandatory as a mother and I’ll always remember us indulging in the sun while the men were at work and the babies were small.
Thank you for picking up my slack when I couldn’t and everything you have done for our family. You helped our babies have the most perfect childhood.
I am happy every day because of the way you raised your bestest baby boy, to be the most amazing man and father. I’ll make sure I look after him enough for both of us (and that’s he stays in line!).
I know what you were worried about and I will do my best.
Lloyd, Tracey and Dan will be surrounded by all our love so rest easy.
Thanks for being my confident, for your guidance, and most of all, thank you for loving me and being the best friend.
Swing your wine glass around and I’ll love you forever xx

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Shelly Eden Milla Blackmur wrote

We love you so much Grandma. Thanks for being the best grandma in the world. You are so beautiful and kind. We will remember you forever and will look after poppy for you and give him love. We will think of you when we stay at your house and make sure we still have fun there and that poppy still buys tim tams and cheezels. We will look for you in the sky and at the beach. Love Eden and Moo Moo

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